Somewhere between very good and even better
Diary of a pure positive mind
Once we get into that stage of appreciation it seems all so easy. But why is that so? It is a compeltely altered state of being. Once we are in that mode we can´´ t help to enjoy everything and feel wavers of gratefulness wash through our bodies. What if we could stay in that stage all the time?
I know that it is becoming chronic and that it could be the easiest thing ever. We need to make sure that we do not prevent each other from getting there.
Communicate in a certain way
It is so easy to say negative things. But they are getting us nowhere. I just realized that a lot of discord is coming out of not so fruitful conversations. People talk bad shit about others, they complain about stuff and they are grumpy and unsatisfied. I know I need to get rid of these conversations and refrain from doing so, too.
It gets much harder when it comes to advice. Just imagine you have a dream and you decide to commit to that dream. Let´´ s just say you mention that you are going to be making your living by flying. Most of your surroundings will try to “help” by making a realitiy-check on their terms and give you advice. “Don´ tyou think you should rather stick with your old job´? How do you want to make money with that if you haven´ t flown yet?”
That advice might be well- meant, but it is still not the most positive outcome you get there. I am convinced that we can cultivate a communication that is still realistic, but not disempowering our dreams. Maybe we shouldn´ t give advice. Especially in all these cases where we don´ t know better, means almost ALL THE CASES.
Don´ t give advice
You couldn´ t even give advice if you were paragliding teacher and doing your living on that for you don´ t even know all the different possibilities that exist making money with flying. That´ s all we need to know.
We are no fucking expert on shit! We don´ t know! We don´ t know what the other person is capable of. We don´ t know of what is going to be possible tomotrrow.
So how could we react to that? We are still in for communication, right? We don´ t want to be silent and irritate the other person.
Do it in a motivation way
Let the person be empowered by the dream. Enjoy the vison with them. What if it works? How would life be? If you want to be really helpful, ask the person, what the next steps are. What is a tiny little step in the right direction?
Build a vision that is fun to explore. Let the dream be there without blocking it and see what happens.
